Physical - including pushing, slapping, punching, restraining, choking, grabbing, hair pulling, throwing objects, smashing property, spitting, using body to intimidate partner.
Verbal - including shouting, swearing, name calling, putting down, threatening to harm, threatening suicide, threatening to take children away.
Sexual - including pressuring for sex or specific sexual acts, forcing sexual activity, expecting sex after an argument, using sex to control, cheating on partner, refusing sex as a punishment, abusive use of pornography.
Mental and emotional - telling partner they are stupid/fat/ugly etc, preventing partner from seeing friends/family, accusing of infidelity, criticising their parenting, using jealousy to control, dictating what they wear, blaming partner for your violence, intimidating and harassment.
Financial - including withholding money, making partner beg for money, monitoring and controlling money, misusing money for drugs and alcohol.
Coercive Control - including patterns of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.
It takes time, energy and commitment to change abusive patterns.
I work with helping you
* recognise abusive patterns
* stop minimising denying and blaming
* take responsibility for your behaviour
* address any substance misuse issues
* understand the impact of violence on your partner and any children involved
* identify early signs of anger
* identify your beliefs around relationships including expectations of roles
* teach techniques of fair negotiation, respect, anger management and empathy, leading to healthier non violent relationships.
I support any gender in any relationship, as well as those on their own, who are willing and ready to address their abusive behaviour and build relationships that are based on respect and safety.
It takes time, energy and commitment to change abusive patterns.
I work with helping you
* recognise abusive patterns
* stop minimising denying and blaming
* take responsibility for your behaviour
* address any substance misuse issues
* understand the impact of violence on your partner and any children involved
* identify early signs of anger
* identify your beliefs around relationships including expectations of roles
* teach techniques of fair negotiation, respect, anger management and empathy, leading to healthier non violent relationships.
I support any gender in any relationship, as well as those on their own, who are willing and ready to address their abusive behaviour and build relationships that are based on respect and safety.
